Here's what we can expect, logistically, over the next couple of weeks. The emotions are another story, and something I can hardly fathom. But, this is a quick run-through of the basic timeline to come.
Right now, we are waiting for birth mother to go into labor. Her due date is November 14th. She called yesterday, after her appointment, to report that there are no new signs, just the low back pain that she's been feeling for a few days now.
Once we get word that she's officially gone into labor, we'll hop on the first plane we can. We'll probably book one-way flights, as we have no idea of our return date. Oftentimes, first-time deliveries take awhile, so hopefully we'll make it there by the birth. The birth parents have expressed that they want us very involved in all of the moments just after she's born.
In Nevada, the birth parents must wait 72 hours before signing the relinquishment papers. They want them to be of sound mind following the delivery, plus give them the time they need with the baby. We are very grateful that the birth parents want Ross and me involved during that 72 hour period.
Assuming a healthy delivery, the birth mom will be released from the hospital at around 48 hours. The baby remains in the hospital, boarded, as they put it. We, fortunately, are allowed to remain and care for her. We have been told that this hospital sees quite a few adoption situations and they are wonderful to work with.
After the relinquishment papers are signed, the baby will be released to our care. In Nevada, the decision is irrevocable once the papers are signed. The adoption will be officially finalized through the court systems, however, in the coming months.
Our homecoming, initially, will be to a hotel in Las Vegas. A friend of mine set us up with a discounted rate at a pretty swanky place. (Thanks, Jilien!) We'll have a full kitchen, which is important for washing and preparing bottles! A kitchen will also be nice, so that we don't have to eat every meal out.
Because it's an out of state adoption, the ICPC paperwork (Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children) must process before we can leave the state of Nevada with our daughter. We've been told that this can take anywhere from four to ten days, on top of the first 72 hours. Of course, we're hoping for closer to four, but we'll make the most of our time together as a family, just the three of us.
Once we get the OK, we'll book flights and head back to Minnesota. We're a bit nervous about flying with a newborn, but so excited to arrive back home. The real homecoming. We can't wait for friends and family to meet our little one.
Praying for things to go smoothly!
